ISABELLA LETTERS

The keys to keeping a good relationship are good communication and foresight.
Relationship will always exist whether it’s between parent and child, friends, colleagues or as the Indians say “Anjaani Anjaani” amongst strangers. What you should ask yourself is what kind of relationship do I want to keep with people around me?
As a matter of communication, have you ever said something to someone and the person totally spiralled out of control? Interpreting things you would never say, or you never meant? Yes! That is what happens when you don’t communicate properly, especially to the ones you love .Communication is the bond, the strength, the life of every relationship, what you say, what you do, how you say it, the way you do it, they all matter in a relationship.
Communication is powerful, it can either mar or make a relationship, wrong gestures, facial expression or words, can pass the wrong messages, which might build resentment, pain and anger.
Using  the proper words, using the right gestures and even using the right facial expression goes a long way in sending the right messages to the people around us, trying to stay calm when speaking to someone you love goes a long way to tell them how much you can control because of them.
English is our second language but then we should learn to say what we mean as clearly as we can, and our gestures and expressions should not say otherwise also.
Sometimes when people say something like that’s not what I meant; I find myself saying “then say what you mean!”
When you find yourself in any relationship, you should be able to listen to your partner, know when they need space, and know when they are stable enough to talk about a hurt or would rather cry over it.
If not for anything, anger will end, you would stop working in that company someday, that bowl of rice you are fighting over will be eaten, and that car you are fighting over will still remain a car. But will your relationship remain? You will need “a hundred good words to make up for that bad word you will say” so it’s wise, you don’t say at all.
Foresight is very important too, where I see myself and the other person in a relationship will avail me keeping that relationship alive, no one wants to willingly invest in something that would not last or in something that does not have a future. It is not advisable to befriend people whom you would not have a long term relationship with. That kind of relationship might end up with one party being jealous, or the other feeling unfulfilled, these relationships usually end up on a bad note.
But relationship would not close the deal like communication would. To ever be in your relationship, you must have good communication skills, you must learn to listen and talk, lots of talk. Tell each other precisely how you feel at the right time.
If need be, wake your mother up at night  and tell her how you feel about her calling you names, I stress on relationship at this level because these are the people whose departure will forever stay with us.
Relationship fall apart, marriage end in divorce, siblings no longer want to hear from each other there was always a break in communication.
All that bitterness that grows into hatred and contempt could have easily been handled if both of you could simply have talked about it. Always have and understanding by talking about it, not arguing about.
Think about how long you want to keep that relationship and always have an understanding by peaking up

Thanks.